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Cake day: September 30th, 2023

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  • Just so you know, someone isn’t “really nice” if they make jokes like that. Maybe she used to be nice, but she isn’t acting that way now.

    I’m not sure how old you are, but it sounds like you’re both still teenagers or maybe young adults. People are trying to figure themselves out at that time, and sometimes what they try out is edgelord (especially when the edgelords are gaining political power). She may be testing boundaries of what is socially acceptable, in which case it’s in her best interests as well as yours to gently push back against this kind of behavior (or more forcefully later if she doesn’t take a hint).

    Something like, “hey, it makes me uncomfortable when you make those ‘identify as’ jokes. You know I’m nonbinary and that sort of humor makes me feel like you don’t respect me. I fully support your identity, including your faith, and as your friend I hope you would do the same for me.”

    Even if you are 1-on-1 for that chat, she is almost certainly going to respond negatively to that, so I would drop it there, but be prepared to remind her that you don’t like it later. Ideally after some reflection she wakes up and realizes she’s causing harm to your friendship, but be prepared to break it off entirely with her if she doesn’t want to treat you with respect.


  • Full respect to the potential harm of this concept, but isn’t this a channer type edgy meme that boils down to “I’m so irony poisoned that I need to have an excuse for my genuine need to transition”? Like in 2021 it was “now that Biden’s in office he’s gonna forcefem all the men ohhhh nooooo here I go taking estrogen that I definitely don’t want to be doing ohhhh nooooo”. Obviously the ramp from someone makes an edgy joke to someone genuinely believes it to be true is so short nowadays, but giving it attention and taking it seriously to repudiate it also kind of leans into that, no?