Ramune has a trick to opening it, but I love most of the flavors I’ve tried.

Welcome to the fediverse!

You’ll find it’s a lot like the old internet.

Feel free to ask questions.

The subreddit for r/GenP was shut down, and their users were being directed here.

That’s what this post says anyway.

I hadn’t heard of genp until that post, but since they’re pirates, they’re welcome on dbzer0, the instance for pirates and anarchists.

I got a big air-tight container and I open the bag and pour the whole bag straight in there.

It makes a massive difference in smell alone. The cat doesn’t get excited over new bags anymore. I really recommend it.

I don’t know why I hate loss so much when Saddam Hussein slays me. Maybe because I always dislike ctrl alt delete?

My fiance and I.

I really feel like there should be a dating app for ADHD people. I didn’t know how good I could have it until I got with someone who never condemns me for my behaviors because, “Uh, I do that too? Why would I be mad?”

Welcome ya’ll. If you didn’t bring a pirate hat of your own, feel free to pirate one. Or indeed, anything.

Sorry you lost your old home, but also, you’re going to be so surprised when you realize the fediverse is like the old internet. (To that end, I recommend lurking until you’re comfortable and understand the whole… fediverse… thing.)

Big same. Hope we run into each other again ♥

I don’t think that you and I are entirely in agreement here, however. When I say that we need to fight back against this as furiously as we fight fascism, I absolutely condone the use of violence against fascism. It seeks to harm men, even the people brainwashed into supporting it, and it seeks to harm women, especially those who aren’t willing to be subjugated. The paradox of tolerance is the only reason it’s been allowed to go as far as it has gone. I’m not seeing a peaceful way out of it.

ETA: For the record, we’re on the same side, and I love that for us! And I’ve upvoted you. I used to believe that violence was never, ever the answer, even the language of violence. But at this point… I don’t think I can afford to hold that point of view any more.

PTB.

Don’t get me wrong- you definitely got tilted, you definitely went for the throat and lost your cool. You know all that.

But I went and looked at /r/autism and rule 3 is literally, “No pseudoscience or spreading misinformation, no Autism Speaks, no cure-related posts.” Emphasis mine. That’s cut and dry right there!

I get that they took the time to explain why they wanted to let that other person’s comment stand, and it’s obvious that other person cut-and-pastes their reply, but they should be told to alter it because it’s flagrant rules violation.

Also… I gotta add. If you’re going to moderate a space for autism, the one thing you have to make absolutely certain you do is abide by the rules. You can’t just have a rule, and let people selectively disobey it, or you’re asking for people to react… well, exactly like the OP here did.

For anybody reading this who doesn’t understand, here’s an article titled Autism and Rules: A Hand in Hand Pair. Here’s an excerpt-

“The children with autism reported a higher level of frustration with the rule-breaking than social exclusion as compared with the control group. Their brains also showed an over-active insula during the rule-breaking. The insula is an area of the brain triggered by intense emotion.”

Absolutely nuts. So I want to say, yes, obviously, the reaction to the mod not doing anything was waaaay overboard, but considering this is a person with a diagnosis of autism, and the subreddit is for autism, and it is an explicit rules violation, PTB.

ETA: I actually looked through, and refrained from replying to several other comments because they seem like they’re coming from people who might not understand an autism diagnosis. I’d go so far as to say that some people diminishing the OP’s outrage over the rule violation, a known thing with an autism diagnosis, seems very ableist.

The fact that some people are expected to follow rules to the letter while others can flout them with no consequences is not only confusing to someone whose brain doesn’t automatically conform to neurotypical social hierarchy norms, but it also feels morally wrong. In other words, many autistic people are highly justice-oriented, and not following a rule can actually make them feel physically uncomfortable and even sick.

I am by far and away not an expert on ASD, but I have a lot of experience with it as a caregiver for adults with developmental and intellectual disabilities, and for my family members. And best friend. And godson. My point is, the rule thing is very well known. Getting upset at someone (even someone who doubts their diagnosis) for having a classic symptom is bullshit. Especially in the one place where it should be respected- a forum dedicated to the diagnosis.

And unfortunately for me, the justice thing overlaps with my presentation of ADHD. So I’m giving myself a candy bar for not engaging the other people who seem super ableist, who probably just didn’t know this, and I’m going to try real hard not to reply to anybody who tries to ruffle my feathers. I hope all ya’ll have a great… uh, day? Or whatever.

The funniest part of this to me is that the husband says she did nothing wrong.

My fiance would take a moment to reassure me, and then he’d be going hunting. I’d be calling my sister to warn her that he’s on the way and I’m not going to stop him.

For the record for anybody else reading this in the future- if my BIL (who my sister married when I was 11) had said that to me, I would’ve replied, “Ew, what the fuck are you doing?” And immediately called my sister.

I get that we are giving grace to the person who received the thirst message, that’s fine, but you don’t have to “play nice” to anyone making comments about your body. If you need to, stop and think about what you’d want your sister to say if your husband was being a creepy asshole. (My sister would just want me to call her immediately. The ‘ew’ message is gratis.)

We replaced our old, crummy laptops a couple months ago in preparation. I bought some new underwear. And tomorrow (day after?) we’re going to go stock up on cans of tomatoes, rice, and sugar. And vitamins. We have a lot of stuff laid away but I want to really be sure…

The only thing I’m not prepared for is… and I know a lot of people haven’t thought of it… My medication. I take generic medication. Most of our generics are either imported, or rely on ingredients that are imported. We’re going to be looking at some really, really bad news in the next few months on that alone. I recommend anyone reading this, if you haven’t already laid away stuff like ibuprofen, aspirin… Might be smart.

Because the sort of people who would downvote that, have learned to avoid trying to get into these conversations.

People would likely be downvoting because if we’re having a conversation about group A doing Z bad thing to group B, changing the conversation to “well group B does Y bad thing to group A” is generally seen as a not cool thing to do.

The problem for me now is, someone is going to come and try fighting me over how men can be, and are, victimized. I know that. Anyone with a brain knows that. Men need more support than they’re getting, also, and toxic masculinity (ironically, the same kind you can find in the Man-o-Sphere) is so, so mean to men, telling them to walk it off, to suck it up… I can’t tell you how much work I’ve had to do to help deprogram the fiance, who spent 20 years in the Army… But that wasn’t the discussion. It’s changing the topic.

You’re not allowed to talk about any problems women face, without someone saying, “but men have problems, too,” and then getting mad at you for being a man-hater if you don’t immediately drop the thing you were talking about to discuss the problems men face. Which is such a shame, because it solves neither problem, and just serves to piss people off.

So now that I’ve engaged you, and said the thing those people weren’t saying, someone (possibly multiple someones) are going to try and fight me. I’m going to try and ignore them, but I have ADHD, so we’ll see what happens.

The difference between the nude beach and getting unsolicited dick pics, is if you go to a nude beach, you kinda agreed to see naked people.

Redpill, incel, gender-normative bullshit is violence. It seeks to hurt men by forcing them into the mold of “masculinity” (and defines that masculinity, in some places, in a very toxic fashion) and we all know how it hurts women.

It needs to be fought back, and as furiously as fascism.

From Hark a Vagrant!

The last picture, that cat has the same look on their adorable face that mine gets when he’s trying to explain to me that he was so scared and I’m not taking his trauma seriously, such as when he was briefly contained in his cat carrier or when he couldn’t find me in the house that one time after he took a nap.

Obviously, this cat has actually been through something, but the fact that the expression is exactly the same melts my heart.

If it helps, I’m sure you’d be more attractive to me, since you weren’t a gross grown up on the TV when I was a small child.

(Use your imagination)

Do I have to?